What Does Your Hair Represent?

Woman with long blonde hair

I was at a monthly woman’s gathering this weekend. Each month a different woman shares her insights, knowledge, or passion with the other members of the group. In this past meeting, Bliss who was leading that evenings gathering, asked us all to take out a pen and paper – she had prepared a questionnaire about hair.

We wrote down our answers to the following questions:

  • What does my hair look like?
  • What do I love about my hair?
  • What do I dislike about my hair?
  • If I could change one thing about my hair it would be____.
  • If I could have _____ hair and why?
  • My hair represents to me _____.

Hair and Personal Power

We were all wondering where this was going when she then said to take the pen and cross out the word “hair” and replace it with “personal power.”

After changing our answers in this way, we read them aloud. The answers were often humorous, and always insightful. Some women felt that their “hair” was shining, flowing, and strong, while others had stated it was dull, lifeless, or not full enough. We could see that how we felt about our hair was a metaphor as to how we feel about our personal power.

We shared our hair experiences; from drastic cuts and dye jobs to always natural or low maintenance. A few women in the circle said that they had cut off their long hair after being in an abusive relationship, perhaps to show that they were now in control. Women who had gray hair felt that they had to dye it, symbolizing that they felt a loss of power from their graying hair, rather than seeing it as a symbol of increasing wisdom which comes with age. Some women said they would dye their hair darker in dark periods of their life, while others would try to lighten their hair.

Most people are dissatisfied with their hair. Those with straight hair want curls, those with curls envy a straight head of hair. Some people are constantly altering their color or style, never being satisfied.  In the same way, we never feel that we are good enough, and struggle to find ways to increase our sense of personal power.

The correlation between hair and our sense of personal power applies not only to women; men are just as likely to make drastic changes to their hair, and let us not forget how they often feel a significant loss of personal power when they start balding.

The representation of hair as personal power is not new; the Biblical figure Samson had tremendous strength until he told Delilah the source of his strength – his hair. When she cut his hair in his sleep, he woke to find that he had lost all his strength and power.

How do You Feel About Your Hair?

Do you see your hair in a positive light: fun, beautiful, shining, or do you have negative feelings towards your hair: dull, lifeless, mousy, unmanageable. Do you feel less empowered on a “bad hair day”? Do you get uptight if your friend or lover does not notice your new haircut? Do you make drastic changes to your cut or color in times of stress or life crises? How do you feel about going gray?

We may desire to have the hair of a friend or an actress not realizing that it took many hours to get it looking so good. In the same way, we may envy another’s personal power, not realizing that it has been years in the making. You can spend more time on your hair and it will look good – You can spend time developing your sense of personal power, and it will look even better!

Reflect on your life and how the perceptions of your hair have changed with your sense of personal power. And, next time you book a hair cut or dye your hair think of how you are feeling in your personal power.

Photo: Syda Productions

Michelle is passionate about holistic health and self-discovery. She received her training in Nutrition, Herbalism, and Bodywork from the International Academy of Natural Health Sciences in Ottawa, ON. She studied Ayurveda and Yoga in India and later continued her Yoga studies on Koh Phangan in Thailand. Michelle truly believes that good health involves body, mind, and spirit. She loves to spend her time in walking in nature, meditating, painting, writing, and learning more about health and wellness.


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