Solitude is taking time for oneself. We all need solitude whether we are single, in a relationship, or have a family. Solitude is essential for our personal well-being and the health of our interpersonal relationships. Solitude allows us time to rejuvenate and get in touch with ourselves; it is needed by everyone, regardless of their nature; introverts tend to require more solitude, but even the most extroverted individuals benefit from time with themselves. [Read more…]
As the summer transitioned into autumn, I found myself falling into a bit of a slump. I was struggling over where I stood regarding my Expressive Arts Degree; it was difficult to get myself motivated, and I questioned whether I should stay with it or not. This came as quite of a surprise because I was so in love with my chosen path just a few months earlier. Spending July at EGS was one of the most inspiring things I’d ever done. I felt calm and grounded, yet excited and challenged at the same time. It was very fulfilling to be immersed in the expressive arts every day and surround by like-minded people, all while being held and inspired by the abundant beauty of the landscape. [Read more…]
As my friend Tara and I sat waiting in the hospital the other day, I noticed a man hobbling by on crutches. Trying not to sound too uncompassionate I expressed how nice it has been not to have needed crutches for such a long time. There was a period of a couple of years where both Tara and I were on and off crutches a number of times. Luckily our injuries never occurred at the same time, so we could at least help each other when others failed to show up for the task. We reminisced a bit about the struggles and pains of being immobilized. We sighed in relief that we both had two working feet.
Self-care is about identifying your needs for your physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual well-being and taking deliberate action to meet those needs. Self-care includes taking the time to do activities that nourish you; it also requires restricting situations or activities that interfere with your well-being. Knowing your limits and setting appropriate boundaries is important in your . Letting go of people or situations that deplete you and making space for that which fills you with energy and joy is the essence of self-care. Self-care is an essential aspect self-love, and it means treating yourself with the same kindness and respect that you would treat others. [Read more…]
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.”
~ Deborah Day
“Caring for your body, mind, and spirit is your greatest and grandest responsibility. It’s about listening to the needs of your soul and then honouring them.”
~ Kristi Ling [Read more…]
Making cards is a fun way to connect with yourself, reflect on your needs for self-care, and create a tool to help you take more time for self-nourishment. Self-care is an essential, but often overlooked aspect of health and well-being.
This article outlines how to create your own personalized deck of self-care cards which you can pull from when you feel stressed or overwhelmed; the cards will guide you to how you can care for yourself at that moment. You can make your cards as unique as you; there are no rules – include any images or words which invite you to take time for self-care. [Read more…]
I bought myself a small bouquet of lilies yesterday, an apologetic token for not being there for myself lately. Throughout life, but particularly during the last few years, I’ve learned that at the end of the day, the only person truly invested in my well-being is me. So why did I neglect myself lately? Because it’s the first time in a long time since I’ve tried to be in an intimate relationship with someone else. I’m not used to balancing my time with someone else in mind because I’ve been single for the last two years. I needed that time to focus on healing my body and my spirit from the effects of a difficult run with cancer. I also didn’t feel ready to jump back into something; I need to get into the habit of loving myself more before I could even think of being in another relationship.
In my previous relationships, meeting my needs usually took a back seat to the needs of the other. This is a pattern I noticed in myself, but I thought that since I had cultivated a considerable amount of self-love in these past years, I would not fall back into it. Well, unfortunately, in the short time that I have been with someone else, my pattern of giving in to what the other person wants, even when I know I shouldn’t, has shown up. [Read more…]