As I’ve acknowledged the value of relationships more and more over the years, I’ve found it difficult not to get attached to certain people or certain ideas of how they are supposed to be in my life. A reason for this, I think, is because I spent most of my life pushing people away, and since it hasn’t been that long since I started to let them in, it feels almost counter-intuitive to let them leave, or even ask them to get out. It’s been a matter of trying to find the right balance between keeping some people close and letting others go. It takes both a certain discretion and a tuning into the heart, but sometimes the two conflict, and there is not always a clear answer on what to do. [Read more…]
The winter solstice is a turning point when the days start to grow longer. After the solstice, the darkness wanes as more light emerges.The sun brings light, energy, and warmth into our lives. As the sun’s energy increases, there is a promise of spring and renewal of life which brings hope for a bright and warm future. When we celebrate the light, we are inspired to continue on our path.
The solstice symbolizes the return of the light after a period of darkness. It is a time to acknowledge our fears and remember that new life emerges from the darkness; it is from our challenges that we grow and evolve. The solstice is a time to acknowledge transformation and to be open to the possibilities that life presents. [Read more…]
“Last night I lost the world, and gained the universe.”
~ C. JoyBell C.
“Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.”
“One of the fundamental keys to sustaining ecstasy is not to get attached to certain situations in life. It is learning how to live with the wisdom of uncertainty, freeing yourself from any expectations. This means letting go of all control and surrendering to the flow of life. Just allow God to take you along through the simplest things in life to the most complex.”
~ Prem Baba [Read more…]
I have been in a phase of examining my interpersonal relationships these last weeks, considering which ones I’d like to nourish more and which ones I should let go. So, naturally, when I confirmed some plans to meet up with an ex-partner I got thinking about what my relationship with him should look like. We were friends for two years, then a couple for five. After a somewhat disharmonious parting, we didn’t really speak to each other for about a year. We had met twice over the last year, the first time to smooth things over and communicate the appreciation we have for each other, and then months later we caught up over a coffee when he was in town on business.
I found our last visit with eachother very dry; I listened with eyes glazed over as he went on and on about what he had been doing since our previous meeting. Although the content of what he was saying was interesting, he wasn’t leaving space for me to engage. It was his typical way of relating; talking incessantly with no awareness that I had reached my capacity of what I could take in. [Read more…]
Stuck at home with an injured foot; I’ve been in this scenario more times than any one person should be – but, every time it happens, there seems to be a gift with it since it makes me stop and take a step back to look at my life. I have been feeling overwhelmed in a few areas of life, uncertain about the directions I wanted to go. Now that I can’t really go anywhere, I’m making the time to sit and reflect on my priorities again, to think about where I want to be and the kind of people I want to be with. [Read more…]